When I was younger, I used to constantly self deprecate. I always talked about how I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, and so on. Some of this derived from teenage malaise, but it also lasted into my early and mid twenties, and it became part of my thinking.(Remember Eeyore with his constant doldrums?) In those years, I went to college, and although I don’t regret a single part of those experiences, I wasn’t happy, nor successful during that time. Through a combination of factors, I’ve come to realize, I need to choose to think positively, and talk positively too. I’m not talking about being a Pollyanna, but more like being of the “glass half full” mindset. As I’ve implemented this in my life, I am happier, people are taking me more seriously, and I’m also enjoying more success than I ever have in my work.
I think these things are correlated. Success doesn’t just happen because of “happy thoughts.” There is a tremendous amount of hard work involved, but choosing to be both nice and confident has helped me make friends, and helped bring in work. No one wants to go to an Assistant who says they’re “just okay” at what they do. They want me to be smart and knowledgeable, and I am! And modest too 😉
Next week I’ll talk about having a goal with your Social Media use.