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Looking in the Mirror-And you!

So as the last part in my series here, I have to touch on one more little bit of self examination. It goes along with my last post, talking about negative self talk. It’s negative self opinion about your own talents.

In my time serving the voiceover community, I have heard so very many talent talk about flaws in their voice or delivery, their mouth noise, their read, or any one of a number of things. I honestly make a point with every one I talk to to reassure them that whatever it is they are worried about, that they believe is ‘their’ thing, lots and lots of other people do too.

Working from home is such an isolating profession, and the voiceover industry in particular since we spend so much of the day in our offices or booths. You hear your voice, or maybe one or two others on a regular basis. Me? I hear dozens, and have heard dozens. I can promise you that you’re not flawed or unique in your amount of mouth noise. Or whatever you’re worried about! Don’t let your anxiety or negative self-opinion drag you down and lead you to be hard on yourself for no reason. You’re not alone!

We all have so many details to worry about as self motivated entrepreneurs, so don’t let something this minor trip you up.

Now let me say as an addendum here, there is one way that positive self talk can harm you, and it’s not about mouth noises. In extreme cases I’ve seen people so convinced that they knew what they were doing, they ignored pro advice from experts in the VO genre because they believed that they knew best. There’s a good self examination, and good self opinion, and there’s evaluating advice that we don’t want to hear from people who know what they’re saying. And it’s pretty easy to figure out who is worth listening to–the internet is all around us as a fantastic research tool to figure out who’s done what, worked with whom, studied with whom and so forth, plus reams of past advice in many cases. (Thank you FB search-in-groups function.)

Many talent have seen a flood of people enter the industry, lured by unscrupulous coaches after their dollars, or idiotic articles that paint voiceover as nothing but ‘talking’. These newbies will often make transparent grabs for advice, having done little to no research or learning on their own, and in some cases have even asked for people’s client lists! That being said, sometimes you might get a grouchy response when you ask questions or look for information, but don’t let the snark dissuade you. We’re good people. We work hard, and the best friends I’ve ever had have come through industry relationships.

Next week I’ll be discussing another major thief of joy from my voice talent friends-comparison.

Looking in the Mirror-What Now?

So you’re here. You’ve got some guides looked at, you’ve made your notes, and you’re full of ideas. Now what?

The place you’re at is a tough one. It’s easy to get paralyzed at this point, or to have an awesome start, but then fall off the wagon with your plan a few weeks or months later. (It bears an uncanny resemblance to those New Year’s Resolutions!)

I have two pieces of advice for you to help you get going on your self improvement train. Number one, keep it small. Whatever your first task, your first step on what you want to do is, keep it as small as possible. At this point, getting the ball rolling is a whole lot more important than how far it moves. You want to keep it small to help make it (whatever your steps are to your goal) doable, and something that can turn into a habit. If you make grand and vast plans, life will probably get in your way in a hurry, or you’ll fall off the wagon before you can lock in your habit forming, so that you’ll have the regular turning to your tasks as part of your daily routine.

Second piece of advice–watch your self talk! Maybe this sounds a little too ‘self-help-book’ to you but listen to me for a second. The way we talk, to others and ourselves influences our thinking. The more you state or think something, the more you’ll believe it. If you call yourself stupid or some other negative word it’s easy enough to believe it on some level over time. You don’t have to talk to yourself in sunshine flowers and hippies, but if you call yourself stupid, counter it. Say, ‘no, I made a mistake, that doesn’t make me stupid.’ The reason why I emphasize this is because many of the voice talent I’ve met are extremely self critical, particularly when they make a mistake, and feeling like you’ve failed will only make you do so. You’re going to screw up on your goals. Maybe you’ve fallen off the wagon for a while. Accept it, learn, and get the heck back on! The race is only over when you’re dead.

Next time will be my last post in this series, covering one of the most common things I’ve seen voice talent do in the 7 years I’ve been in this business.

Looking in the Mirror-How To

So when you decide it’s time to slow down, to do that self-examination, how do you go about it? For me, it starts with picking up a pen, and writing. Personally, writing on paper has always helped untangle my mind. I love making lists and writing out my thoughts to help me get myself in order. I often discover numerous things about whatever I’m working on while I’m writing. Other methods may include sitting down on the computer and doing research, or typing as opposed to writing out your thoughts. Whatever works for you, as long as you’re taking time and taking a good look at where you’re at, that’s the important thing. I’ve talked to a lot of people who have a hard time with recording their thoughts, or even just stopping long enough to do so. I believe this is important though–even if it’s a pad and pen on your counter you scribble on as you move through your day. Or an app on your phone, whatever works!

While you’re here, ask yourself some questions. Where do you want to go with your business? What is your ‘big’ goal? How are you going to get there? Do you have an infrastructure in place to handle a greater amount of work? Do you have a business plan, and if you don’t, when will you make one? And don’t get overwhelmed because something seems big or far away, when it comes to your goals. Make the goal, but then look at what the first step is. The goal is important, but after that, it’s only the step in front of you that matters. For right now, just get down as much as you can. You can fine tune later.

When you’re looking at guides and how-to’s, make sure you’re considering how they can work with your specific life circumstances. Kids, outside jobs, and many other factors influence how we make organizational plans fit our lives. It’s easy to give up on getting more organized or evaluating things if we feel like we’re failing whatever plan or guru we’ve found. Don’t let someone else’s idea of how you should be running your business make you feel like you’re not good enough.

The important thing is to take a solid look at where you are, where you’re going, and how far you’ve come. To make plans, and consider new things. To admit things you could have done better, but also to celebrate your successes. The mirror may be uncomfortable sometimes, but we all need to take a good long look to be sure we’re going where we want to, and we know how to get there!

Looking in the Mirror

In my recent series, I discussed many of the lessons I learned after having been in the hospital with heart failure at 36. One of the major ones was the need to stop and asses where you are from time to time. In these next few posts, I’ll be looking into that concept more in depth.

Like many people in our line of work, I’m often very busy between career and real life concerns. There’s the work itself, which takes up a fair bit of time. There’s marketing, client management, and looking for new leads. You’ve got to make sure you have enough work, pay the bills, and try and tuck some away for a rainy day. (Not to mention taxes.)

Then there’s plain old life needs. I don’t have kids, but I have a number of personal concerns I have to deal with regularly. I try to get out once in a while and have fun, as well as work on outside projects, and try and diversify my income. I have some down-the-road plans, as I’ve always wanted to grow what I do and be able to not have to rely heavily on audiobooks for my income. (I do love them! Don’t get me wrong, I just don’t want all my eggs to be in one financial/business basket.)

But what I’ve found I have to take time for, and is sometimes pretty difficult, are those moments of looking in the mirror. Evaluating where I am and what I’m dealing with, not just with my business, but with how business and life balance and interconnect. It can be easy to just work and work and work, and worry only about what’s right in front of me. Then I find myself weeks or even months down the road with no notion of how I got there, and behind on numerous ‘office’ aspects of my business. There’s always more that I ‘mean’ to do, things I ‘should’ do to get more organized, or other vague ideas like that.

For me, making the effort to do these things is about staying mindful, staying present, and not just letting life sweep me along. It’s also about having people to keep me accountable, and making the effort to do the needed things even when I don’t want to. I’ve taken a little time off this week to sit down and consider where my business and life are going. I’ve been working with voice talent since 2011, and I’ve been very lucky to have had as much success as I have. I’m very grateful to everyone I’ve developed a relationship with, and how much goodwill I’ve found throughout the community. I hope sharing some of my journey to business accountability can help you consider your own mirror, to see where you are, how far you’ve come, and where you want to be.

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